Food for thought:
If you can begin to see the real you, the spirit/soul inside of the human flesh, the one who loves God and wants to obey Him, and then see the destructive one, the big BAD self, you will be able to set boundaries against its/self destructive ways, which hurt others and make bad decisions, allow other to run riot all over you, stop others form false accusations, apply love and tender kindness instead of hate and anger, kill the emotional roller coaster your self gets on, ............... ecetera.
Taking that seriously into account please ponder this...............Unless the spirit-energy Being, not the "self" and all it's emotions, is sincerely accepting an apology there will never be an end as to how much hate, and ill feelings, anger, strife, resentment, self pity, one feels towards others and for it's self, due to no boundaries being set against the self and it's self centered ways. Truth is all humans hate each other.
God gave everyone FREE-will choices to choose what we make each moment of every day, and accepting an apology takes work, in other words, it takes self control with ones self to accomplish this correctly. When an ill feeling arises in your thought wave, cast it down, " setting a boundary right then with the self, choose at that very moment who you will listen to, "Am not listening to that nonsense today", I have chosen forget this and understand the situation from a different point of view now, to never think ill of it again or allow the self to lash out towards that person in an ill manner."
(KILL self Now- But what you do not see is that you, the 'Self' in you, can never forgive injuries. The very thought of them means 'Self' in the foreground, then the injury, instead of appearing less, appears greater.
No, My children, as all true Love is of God, and is God, so all true forgiveness is of God and is God. The 'Self' cannot forgive. Kill 'Self'.
Cease trying to forgive those who fretted or wronged you. It is a mistake to think about it. Aim at killing the 'Self' now - in your daily life, and then, and not until then, will you find there is nothing that even remembers injury, because the only one injured, the "Self", is dead.
As long as it recurs to your mind you deceive yourself if you think it forgiven. Forgiving injuries can be one way of feeding a 'Self'-life.
Many deceive themselves in this.)
This act sets the invisible boundary line for the self who is now hopefully being controlled by the spirit Being.
One must be interested in learning humility and the compassion towards others to be able to move upward and onward on our spiritual Journey. Remember it is the Journey that matters most not the destination.
This is how the self works against you. The “self” is constantly trying to reinflate itself, to take up all of its personal space It is always pretending to be your best friend when in reality it is your worst enemy. Being full of one's “self” leaves no room for the truth to get in, which is the only thing that can set us free. When ill feelings are held against others that resentment shows itself as grudges over the most petty things. All of that hatred and ill will is then focused outwardly onto others, even if not especially) toward the very people who are trying to help them with their anger issues. All of us should be striving to help others overcome their egos, by pointing these things out to others in a loving way, but each of us must be willing to do whatever it takes to keep the hateful ego/"self" under control so it cannot do harm to others. That's the job each of us has to do. Unfortunately, like thinking, it's a difficult job, which is why so few choose to do it (and thus and can't be helped). But it is what we all MUST learn to do everyday: get rid of the selfish, negative emotions, particularly self-pity which is a powerful dark emotion.
Hope this helps shed some light on resentments, ill feelings stemmed from anger and dark emotions that points to self.
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