@GodTaughtMeHow , thank-you for logic.
Self pity is a very dark demon...
Please, this is for anyone suffering ill effects of self pity.
At all cost, turn out self pity, because no good can come from it. A close friend has struggled with this dark, satanic emotion for years, so the ill effects from letting thoughts of self-pity take root have been personally observed. Today it is much better having recognized it, practicing determination when anything negative inters the thoughts, then instead direct thoughts back to Christ for all help basically. He is our Strong Tower in time of need each moment of the day.
By turning the demon out, what is meant is that at the first sign of feeling sorry for yourself, think instead about how much all of here has to be thankful for, including the amazing opportunities all of us have been given here to learn wisdom and truth beyond anything possible in any other setting including real love from real friends and F/family. Those good thoughts will bring the joy of discovery and enlightenment that can brighten the darkest path.
Stop thinking of yourself and think about everyone else around you, and what you can do to brighten their day rather than thinking what they can do for you. Perhaps there's some chore for another that needs doing, or some way to offer kindness, or even something important that could be share with a friend online to help brighten their day? Doing something nice for others is another way to take the focus off of ones self. Overcome self pity, by being humble and of good cheer, full of kindness showing love to others then you'll be drawing them closer to Christ. Love cancels hate, Love begets Love.